To all the women out there who are divorced or going through a divorce,
I want you all to read this and read it carefully. I know life may seem hard now and you may feel like you have lost something. Even if your marriage was tough and rough. Even if your partner was the worst person out there. The fact that you are now a single parent will definitely leave you burdened and down. However, this feeling will not last long. Even if the nights seem long and the days seem to all look alike; it will pass.
I am not saying it will all pass smoothly and easily, there will certainly be days where you feel like your world is falling apart and that you can’t take it anymore, but you are strong. You can do it. As a divorced woman, who went through an ugly divorce from the person I thought was the man of my dreams, I can tell you that you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. It may take you time, but it will all pass.
Dear Single Mommy,
I know you sometimes feel like the load is too much and that you wished that you could have kept your family together for the sake of your kids, but please understand that sometimes getting a divorce and being a happy single parent is better than being miserable and in an unhappy marriage. Always remember: A happy mom equals a happy child!
I know that you feel bad sometimes that your child misses his or her daddy. As hard as it may seem and even if you had an ugly divorce, make sure your son or daughter maintains a healthy relationship with their father and sees him on a regular basis. This will help make life easier on you and your child.
I know that sometimes your son or daughter asks you, “Why doesn’t daddy live with us?” or “Where is daddy? I miss him.” I know this can break your heart and make you wonder if you made the right decision or if you are harming your child. My advice is to not overthink. Things happen for a reason and as much as we hate the situation we are currently in, we find out that reason sooner or later.
Please find a support group to help you stay strong. If you feel like you need therapy, visit a psychotherapist or a couple’s therapist to help you go through the divorce. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. After all, divorce is a loss and not all of us can deal with loss in the same way.
If you feel like your children are affected, speak to a child psychologist and ask them for tips on how to help your kids cope with the divorce. More importantly, PLEASE do not put your children in the middle of your problems and remember that their mental health is your responsibility. They are not to blame for your divorce.
Dear Single Mommy,
I want you to believe in second chances, while you may feel like your world is falling apart, and that you are afraid to start a new relationship, I want you to know that just because your first marriage didn’t work out, doesn’t mean that you won’t have a second chance.
Finally, you need to know that you are strong and you can do it. You are no less than any other woman in society. Don’t let the social stigma – being a divorced woman in the Middle Eastern world – affect you. If you hear friends or family members criticizing your decision, I would advice you to simply ignore them. No body lived in your shoes and nobody will ever understand the circumstances which led to your divorce.
Your decision is yours and yours ONLY, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Always remember: This too shall pass.
Stay strong beautiful mamas!
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